At times we may find ourselves stuck and unhappy in situations and circumstances that no longer serve us. This could be a job, a home, a relationship or other situation. Often we try to push through and ignore the signs that something isn’t working for us and that its time to change course. We tend to spend a lot of time taking care of others and making sure they’re happy rather than focussing on ourselves. Stress, anxiety, depression and anger often ensues and we find ourselves complaining rather than trying to resolve the situation and move towards a happier and more fulfilling life.
'Put yourself first and choose yourself!'
The answer in these situations is fairly simple if we are willing to be still and listen to our body and soul. Choosing yourself means knowing yourself, listening to your reactions and what you need rather than being steered by what other people want and need. Make it a lifelong commitment to honour and trust yourself and put yourself first. It isn’t selfish, it’s actually the ultimate act of self-love, even if it means your choices may hurt another person.
A lot of the time we find ourselves ruminating with thoughts that run over and over in our minds. The mind can be a trickster and is not always the best judge in helping us to determine what course of action to take. So how do you know what is or isn’t good for you in order to make the best choices for you? You can do this at anytime by tuning into your emotions and body. Ask yourself how are you truly feeling? Are you feeling hurt, anxious, scared, sad or worried and where are these feelings manifesting in your body? Do you feel tightness in the chest, shoulders or a knot in your gut. Tune into your body, the body never lies!
Once you feel these sensations ask yourself the question ‘what is it that I need to do about this to feel good or better about this situation’? Do I need to set a boundary, express my needs, give an apology, end a relationship, look for another job etc? Then simply take action, even small steps to move towards your intention.
'Love the skin you’re in and never apologise for being who you are!'
Choosing yourself means setting standards for your own life. It means making decisions to maintain positive vibes around you whilst not allowing negativity to continue to manifest and set in. It means prioritising your happiness, peace and sanity over stress, confusion and heartache. This may mean letting go of people, places and situations in your life that may be getting in the way of your bliss.
Don’t depend on another person or anything material to make you happy. This kind of happiness is often fleeting and temporary. Start from within by investing your time and energy in people, places and situations that bring you joy and fulfillment. Remember, you’re your own best ticket to lasting happiness.